Therapy for relationship OCD, social anxiety & developmental trauma
Helping you distinguish defensiveness from discernment
When Chemistry Clouds Discernment
Many people don’t struggle with relationships because they lack insight—they struggle because certain connections feel too good to walk away from, even when something doesn’t quite add up. The pull of chemistry, attention, or potential can make it easy to override your own boundaries, values, or better judgment in the moment.
Over time, this creates an internal conflict: knowing what you want and deserve, yet repeatedly finding yourself settling for ambiguity, inconsistency, or pseudo-relationships. Intermittent attention—small doses of validation, closeness, or hope—can feel intoxicating, making it harder to step away. What’s at stake isn’t just the relationship, but the gradual erosion of self-trust that occurs when moments of being chosen begin to outweigh staying aligned with yourself.
Therapy creates space to slow this process down—so emotions no longer run the show, and choices are guided by values rather than the fear of losing connection.
You Don’t Have to Figure This Out Alone
Many people reach a point where they begin questioning their judgment, making exceptions they never thought they would, or staying in connections that feel meaningful but unclear.
This isn’t a failure of character or intelligence. It’s what happens when attachment, emotion, and past experience collide—and no one ever taught you how to slow the process down without risking the loss of connection .
As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I work with individuals, couples, and families navigating anxiety, attachment wounds, and unhelpful relational patterns shaped by past experiences.
A Pathway to Secure Connection
A thoughtful, structured approach to building clarity, self-trust, and secure relationships—at a pace that respects your nervous system.
Clarify Your Values
Get clear on what actually matters to you—so decisions aren’t driven by anxiety, chemistry, or fear of losing connection.
Develop Greater Discernment
Learn to tell the difference between emotional reactivity and informed intuition, so choices reflect self-trust rather than self-protection.
Build A Life Worth Living
Apply that clarity and discernment to your relationships and daily life—creating stability, meaning, and connection without abandoning yourself.
When clarity and discernment become part of how you relate, something shifts.
What Changes When You Trust Yourself Again
Decisions feel steadier, and relationships no longer require you to abandon yourself to stay connected.
Emotional Resilience
You’re better able to regulate emotions, tolerate uncertainty, and recover from stress without becoming overwhelmed or reactive.
Mental Clarity
Thoughts feel less consuming, decision-making becomes clearer, and anxiety no longer dominates how you interpret yourself or others.
Relational Integrity
You engage in relationships with greater honesty, boundaries, and self-trust—staying connected without losing yourself.
How Patterns Can Undermine Connection
Without awareness, self-protective patterns tend to repeat—often in subtle ways that are easy to justify in the moment. You may pull away just as things begin to matter, stay longer when clarity is missing, or second-guess yourself at pivotal points in a relationship. Not because you’re trying to sabotage connection, but because these strategies once helped you feel safe.
Over time, this can quietly recreate the same dynamics with different people—ambiguity, inconsistency, and the familiar sense of almost-connection—while gradually eroding self-trust. When patterns go unexamined, it becomes harder to tell whether you’re choosing freely or simply reacting to the fear of loss.